Waking up wet is horrible. Cold and horrible. More laundry, more shame and more sleepovers to dread.

I know all too well what it’s like. I wet the bed all through my teens and twenties. I know what it’s like to have to make up excuses not to go on sleepovers and to try to stay awake through the night so you don’t wet the bed.

Taunted and desperate

I was taunted at school for being a bedwetter and by 15 I still hadn’t found a solution. The doctor told me to wait it out. My mum simply didn’t know what to do anymore. I was even promised a rabbit if I stayed dry. Little did my parents know that it wasn’t as simple as just getting myself up to go to the toilet.

I kept hitting brick walls and felt desperate. It even affected my choice of university – how could I move away from home with this problem? I chose to stay at home throughout my studies.

The problem with bedwetting into your teens and adulthood is that you feel you’re the only one. It becomes a shameful secret that can lead to low self-esteem.

Turning a corner at 30

The catalyst for me was reaching 30. I had begun a serious relationship and felt enough was enough. I’d lived with bedwetting for too long and needed to put an end to it.

I researched many treatment options and in the end it was persevering with an alarm that cured my bedwetting.

It was hard work that took six months but the result was life-changing. I was able to move in with my partner and move on with my life. I haven’t looked back since and encourage you to take action today.

Help and support

ERIC’s website and helpline can give you the confidence and reassurance that you aren’t alone. Get help from your doctor too. See a different doctor if you need to. You can overcome this, just like me. You don’t need to wait it out.

* A different name and a stock photo have been used to protect Andrea's real identity.

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